SG,

I don't know your full sitch, but wanted to fill you in on what my MC told me. I have three kids (S6, S4, D2). Prior to my H moving out we spoke to MC to get advice on how to break the news to the kids.

She said to establish a united front with the kids. No blame should be put on either parent. We communicated to them that it wasn't H's nor my fault that he moved out. I know this might not work in your sitch as your kids appear to be quite a bit older than mine. But this approach has worked well for us.

The C did say something to us that really hit home for me. Remember that your kids are a product of both you and your H. They are 1/2 you and 1/2 him. Don't place them in the middle and whatever you do, don't make them choose sides.

Be sure to keep the lines of communication open with your kids. I would also urge you to consider C for them. At age 16, my parents went through a nasty D. During that time, the last people I wanted to talk to about the sitch was my parents. I shut out my family and turned towards friends. Now my Mom and I are just getting to a somewhat decent relationship.

My intention is not to scare you, just telling you my experiences.


Me & H: 33 yrs
S: 4 & 6
D: 2
M: 9 yrs
ILYBNILWY: 8/09
SEPARATED: 9/09
The Beginning