Is this the end of my marriage?

[sandi2]

The letter sounds much better and you sound a lot more strong and determined. I would say to stay away from FB and making any statements. It is disrespectful and it would cause more bad feelings and draw many more people into it until it would sure 'nuff be a mess! Some people get on there and start slinging mud, so don't open any door for that, and "if" she were to make any remarks, just try not to respond.

The things you've told us about her lately does seem like a move in the right direction......but I think it is too soon to tell. My first thoughts was where was OM while she was gone? Maybe things are not quite as rosey as it appears. And then...there is a possibility that she had found out she made the worst mistake of her life and wants to go back home to you and D. But we could play the guessing game all night and it's just too soon to know. But this is why I told you to make real sure that you wanted to send that letter before it's gone. I don't see a hard rush on it, do you? I think you can wait a little longer and at least watch to see if she continues to move closer to you & D and farther away from OM.

It's your call, but I think you were chosing to send the NC letter b/c you don't feel that you can deal with the pain any longer and you see that as your only way out of the pain. It probably did give you some release for a few days, but in the letter....you are talking the possibility of a lifetime. I won't say it would not be easier with NC....but I doubt it would completely stop the pain. That takes a long time. Just throwing some thoughts out there for ya.