bnd--Thanks for the input, but as I stated before I come here to talk about this subject, but it most certainly doesn't rule my world or my thoughts. I want to be able to post here what is happening with that part of my life, period. It does matter what XH is doing and we all know it..otherwise why would we be here? That doesn't mean every minute of everyday I am dwelling on him and what he is thinking or doing. This is mearly my place to talk about that subject. I know the changes and progress I have made and I am pleased with it, I know I am no where near the woman I was when this all started, and never will be. I also know if XH came back it would be impossible for it not to be different, but it would be a challenge forsure.
I know saying or doing anything to him right now will push him to OW. And, I don't think they are broken up at all. It is just a game they are playing for her XH during the custody battle. Whatever!
I have a good plan...I am going to have the house decorated over the top for Christmas by the time he gets here for Thanksgiving. I read an excert from a book today, I think is is called "Saving Your Marriage Alone" something like that, anyway it says for the woman with a husband in an A to make herself, life and home the most alluring place for him, the most comfortable, homey, happy, no judgement place!! So, no words about anything but positive, good things, all while he has to see that we are a family here without him and he is missing it all. So, that is my plan right now, along with going out more with friends and loving my kids, cause they need me to be strong and steady for them. They have been through so much, and still are reeling from all the changes in their lives over such a short period of time.
It was a rough day, but I am still standing!! A lot going on with her XH bugging me to help him with his custody battle against OW. I have already done all I can do for him and I just want to stay out of it all and not even acknowledge she exists in my life. I am done giving her any power, thought or time, she isn't worth it!!
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Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
