Here's the thing. They aren't stupid! They see things, and they know say more than we ever think they do. She is lashing out because she saw what happened, and she does blame him. You can't stop that, either. My I might not have been clear, I was disagreeing with Trent saying that you should tell her it was his choice to leave. She probably knows that, and you don't have to hide it. Just don't emphasize it.
