Ok, I have this really bad problem of having trouble letting things go.
But a disclaimer I am not trying to say you should. I am just being overly personal and devil's advocate.
But, if we are the ones that want to save the marriage we do have to do most of the work.
I did something that I think has kept David postponing dates. I was going to hire a super duper attorney and fight him tooth and nail to delay this D as long as I could or get what I could out of it.
It scared the living daylights out of me but I told him I had made a decision that I was not hiring an attorney to fight him and I would not postpone these court dates.
Talk about terrified I was, the thought of going to court with no attorney scared me to death.
So far I think that was a big help in his stepping back from pushing for the D.
I KNOW your situation is totally different.
What you have to do is reach the decision that you are at peace with and that you feel is your best chance to work on your marriage.
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Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
