In shock...

[TrentC]

He said he has been talking to my sister because she is easy to talk to and they are over the blow up that tore their friendship up.

I foresee "And then it just happened..." in your future.

This is why we were so frustrated by your conversation with your sister. You should have known that everything you said would be relayed to your husband, and probably not in the best light.

He asked me not to contest the divorce to please just let him file and sign the papers. He said he will wait to file because I asked but if I were to say it was ok he would go do it tomorrow. He is done he wants it over with.

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I told him I had to go (I am at work). He left me with no hope. I don't even feel like DR or DB will work for us. He is a strong man and when he sets his mind to something he very very rarely changes it.

Please someone reply. I am sittng in a corner at work crying. I think it is really over.

Don't give him any answers about anything right now. Give yourself a day or two to think it over (and if he asks, that's what you tell him you are doing). And above all, don't sign anything before you are ready.

If he's already working on divorce papers, you need to talk to a divorce lawyer immediately. You need to protect yourself because despite what your H might say about "making this easy", divorce proceedings are painful and adversarial.

If he is not living in the house with you, then you "go dark" to him. You don't respond to any msgs or phone calls that don't involve interacting for the sake of the kids. If he wants to come over, you have plans. If he stops by unannounced, you were just getting ready to leave. (The same goes double for your sister.)

If he is living in the house with you, then he gets kicked to the curb. He can find a place to stay while things get worked out. (Hopefully, it won't be with your sister...)

Is this harsh? Yes, but consider where you are right now; on the verge of getting divorced. Nothing you do now can make it any worse.