Yeah, I guess it was good, but it was a small victory. I needed to be much stronger at the beginning of all this. I believe if I had been strong enough, I could have prevented the whole thing. If I had access to your advice, and had been strong enough to truly implement it (hard boundaries, cut off financial support, cut off emotional support), I think my W might have come crying back to me out of sheer terror of being alone.
I have to admit though, I'm not 100% sure that would have been a good thing. This crisis has caused us both to deal with serious issues. We seemed to be incapable of dealing with them within the confines of our M. Whether we can put our M back together is yet to be seen.
