Put your foot down, make him see a strong, sexy, good looking, good smelling, awesome dressing woman that he would be silly (or I could use more stronger terms if you'd like) to let go! Sooner or later, that lady is going to turn the head or heads of others & it's going to be too late for him to back-pedal. He better start doing it now!
READ THIS AGAIN!!!
Add in confident,cool,calm,desirable,irresistible,happy,friendly,flirting,seductive,popular,assertive,independent......
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Mutual friends are also extensions.......DO NOT TALK ABOUT YOUR CHANGES. JUST PROJECT THEM TO EVERYONE!
I have a whole set of new friends. I fear nothing. I interact and flirt with every woman that is open to it. MsR2C has seen me with so many different woman. What goes on in her mind? WHO CARES!!!! I am enjoying myself and woman enjoy my company.
I do what I enjoy and makes ME happy. MsR2C is free to find her happiness.......
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Ya, well I portrayed that sat. night. So much that I got hit on a few times right in front of H. I think that's why he left so early. There was always some men standing around me. I do admit I looked hot that night...hehe...I had a new outfit on, put my extensions in, and it was working for me. So he got jealous and sure enough, I think he got pissed off and that's why he left early. Gotta keep that going.
As for the SIL. I may be in trouble. She is one of my best friends. I talk to her about everything. Since this happened we have had one serious "R" talk since I've been limiting our chats being that she is HIS sister. But today we went for lunch and it came up at the end of our lunch. I just told her how confused I am, and how confusing he is and she agreed. And said she doesn't get it. I refrained from talking to her like I normally would, but may have let a bit too much slip out. She loves her brother to death and of course he comes first over me. Now I'm a little worried she may say something. Well no more. You're right, I have to portray the new me to her as well.
So I get home from my spa party and open the garage and its spic and span. He came back, after I told him not to, and cleaned the garage and the backyard! He didn't tell me he was coming back, and must have gotten his friend to come to, cause they hauled some stuff out. Well, glad I wasn't here. He was expecting me to be here painting. But no, I have a life...hehe...I don't know what to do. Do I call him and thank him for what he did?
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
By hauling stuff out, I mean an old hot tub that needed to go to the dump...fyi.
Trent, notice you're still setting this boundary with me...But I did want to tell you that being Remembrance Day I can't go to the doc until the next time H has the boys now. So its not going to be until next week, but if you've been reading, I'm doing okay. Just wanted to let you know. Hope you are as well.
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
I can't go to the doc until the next time H has the boys now. So its not going to be until next week, but if you've been reading, I'm doing okay. Just wanted to let you know. Hope you are as well.
I said I'd stop posting to the thread. I never said I'd stop reading it.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I can't go to the doc until the next time H has the boys now. So its not going to be until next week, but if you've been reading, I'm doing okay. Just wanted to let you know. Hope you are as well.
I said I'd stop posting to the thread. I never said I'd stop reading it.
He also has a hard time holding himself to his boundaries.
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