Tampering with property that does not belong to you (cell phone) would not hold up in court as evidence, at least not in my state.
All she needs to do is tell him... look buster, you and OW WONT be communicating via e-mail, text or cell under our roof or anywhere on our property, around me or the children every again. If this is not suitable for you lets find you some boxes and get you packed up as I choose to no longer live with a man who has no respect for me. Thanks and have a stellar day.
There *is* a reason my H has not been allowed to set foot back in our (now mine) house since April of 2008. He chose, his choice but that choice did come w/consequences. The poor dear crashed with friends for months and when they grew tired of him he went to live with his grandparents. Me, I have my lovely and comfy brownstown all to myself in a very cool neighborhood. No problem for me
I know you are scared to do this. It took me a LONG time to set boundaries with my H. But the day he came over here four hours late to hang out and watched the clock and promptly left to go meet OW was the last time he was ever here. When he needs something it is stacked in the hall or outside or sent via the mail or through our attnys.
A few weeks ago I was walking my dog and my H just showed up with chocolates, gift cards to my favortie market and a pizza. He wanted to come in and eat the pizza and talk. No. My mind has not changed from nearly 2 years ago. Go eat your pizza and talk with your GF, your WIFE is busy.
Just so I am clear are you trying to find out for your own knowledge or are you trying to build a legal case against him?
With all due respect I think you have plenty of intel and you are in a bit of denial (I know, it hurts like hell so please don't think I don't have sympathy for the pain an affair causes).
If you are doing this to build a legal case then I really would let your legal counsel advise you on how to proceed.
I know it's best not to always assume the worst but when *any* signs of an OW/OM start creeping in they usually are true.
She wants it for her knowledge (her and I are friends IRL), I think she may be gone from work for the day, and her computer at home is fried. She is not ready to take any legal action - she wants her marriage saved, if it can be.
She is having a hard time with the boundaries - which is understandable - because what if she sets them... and his choice IT to leave. That is a whole other set of hurt! But it does need to be done to start working on the marriage.
Me - 33 Him - 37 2 Children (D-8, S-5) Married 04/28/01 He Left 12/03/05 Updated Story
what if she sets them... and his choice IS to leave.
She's better off.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
