I will have to look into Divorce Care. Of course, technically I am not going through the divorce yet since stbx has not signed the dang paperwork!!
Wish I could take a nap with my mojo. Part of my funk is that my house is a mess, I have not cleaned/organized in a week. So much going on, last week I was out until bedtime every night except Friday which I spent with my kids. This week parent conferences, plus night class tonight, I am running out of hours in the day. Not sure which came first, the funk or the disorganization, but being disorganized adds to the funk. Will have to pull a late-nighter tonight and deal with some of the clutter so it stops overwhelming me.
On my Lady Antebellum kick (seriously, check out their music if you haven't, even if you don't like country!), here is the song for today's mood--
ONE DAY YOU WILL
You feel like you're falling backwards Like you're slippin' through the cracks Like no one would even notice If you left this town and never came back You walk outside and all you see is rain You look inside and all you feel is pain And you can't see it now
[Chorus] But down the road the sun is shining In every cloud there's a silver lining Just keep holding on (just keep holding on) And every heartache makes you stronger But it won't be much longer You'll find love, you'll find peace And the you you're meant to be I know right now that's not the way you feel But one day you will
You wake up every morning and ask yourself What am I doing here anyway With the weight of all those disappointments Whispering in your ear You're just barely hanging by a thread You wanna scream but you're down to your last breath And you don't know it yet
[Repeat Chorus]
Find the strength to rise above You will Find just what you're made of, you're made of
[Repeat Chorus]
One day you will Oh one day you will
I am ever the optimist, I know I will feel "up" again soon. Just a matter of time! Dan gets back tomorrow, maybe that contributes to my mood? Easier with him gone I don't have to look at him or speak to him at all...
Divorce care is for those going through separation or divorce BBJ. They do advocate reconcilliation if at all possible but give great tools to heal. It's really awesome!
Is the deputy meeting Dan with the papers as he steps off the plane?
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T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Divorce care is for those going through separation or divorce BBJ. They do advocate reconcilliation if at all possible but give great tools to heal. It's really awesome!
Is the deputy meeting Dan with the papers as he steps off the plane?
Nah...not that soon. Probably early next week. I still need to call and arrange it...
In other news, MG #3 (Marathon runner, likes my smile, thinks my pictures are cute!) just asked me when he gets to meet me! We have sent a few emails back and forth but nothing more than that. Still I think it might be better to meet someplace and see what I think anyway. Before I spend more time chatting, then texting, only to meet and find out I am not attracted in person (again!)...
So this is where I need help from some cool people...
All he asked was, "So when do I get to meet you?"
Not sure the best way to reply. Yes, I want to get together. And I had a couple of flirty replies in mind but I don't want to do anything that could spin this like the last two guys where they were reading the wrong message, apparently!
Should I just ask what he had in mind?
Maybe I need to read "dating for dummies". It has been too long!
Yeah, what Kerry said. Throw out an idea or two of where, and a couple options of when. I don't think a restaurant is too bad, a bar, I wouldn't do. Maybe an ice cream shop for a snack. You can make a quick getaway if needed, or you can linger. If the weather isn't bad, something outdoors makes a lot of sense.
I'd keep the arranging to meet part pretty straightforward. I'd leave out the flirty stuff there. There's time for that later.
We have sent a few emails back and forth but nothing more than that. Still I think it might be better to meet someplace and see what I think anyway. Before I spend more time chatting, then texting, only to meet and find out I am not attracted in person (again!)...
You're a quick learner in figuring out how you can weed through them. That makes sense.
Sorry can't help you with the dating questions since it's been almost 20 years for me.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
Stay away from the flirty remarks. Us guys kind of get carried away and tend to project...
For the first meeting I much prefer somewhere quick. Something like meeting for a quick coffee at your favourite coffee house. Make sure you tell him that you are squeezing him in between two appointments...or whatever. If you feel like vomitting, then you leave. If you like what you see and hear....you leave. Act nice no overt flirtation and wait for him to call or e-mail. If he does not, he is not interested....move on. Simple as that? Plenty of time for hiking and restaurants and bars and whatever it is you like doing....in and out.....quickly....no lingering......15 - 30 minutes max.
Hope Sydney is doing better.....I have absolutelly no problem whatsoever with flirting....it's all about timing grasshopper. You flirt too early and it raises expectations from us guys...trust me. Be yourself, have fun, drop the flirtatious discourse....you want to find out if you are compatible physically and perhaps even morally, intellectually. I sound like a coach....maybe i should start an on-line dating coach service.
