Thank you everybody. It felt good. It was even better cause he didnt expect it. And i could tell he was bothered. Had lunch with his sister and she is confused as well. She stated he talks to her like nothing has happened between us. But im going to continue what im doing. It feels hard but okay today. Day one though.
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But there is & he needs to realize that his actions are going to have repercussions!
He can live day to day, going out & having a good time and acting like nothing has changed, BUT IT SURE HAS FOR YOU!
I seriously think he may do a big 180 himself if you keep up the boundaries.
-no more just walking in the house, sorry, bud, you don't live here anymore & that was BY YOUR CHOICE.
-no more intimacy - go back & read the advice from PDT & Trent & others about what to say in those instances. "It seems you aren't sure you want our M or not, so I don't feel comfortable w/ any intimacy w/ you until you figure it out"
He's cake eating. Maybe there isn't an OW, but he's living his life the way HE wants to & expecting you to sit around & wait for his decision on whether he wants you & his family or not & that's not fair to you.
Put your foot down, make him see a strong, sexy, good looking, good smelling, awesome dressing woman that he would be silly (or I could use more stronger terms if you'd like) to let go! Sooner or later, that lady is going to turn the head or heads of others & it's going to be too late for him to back-pedal. He better start doing it now!
Last edited by RedHeadWife; 11/11/0910:35 PM.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
