Thanks for that, your thoughts have been really helpful.
H left last night. He spent the afternoon flirting with me and we completed and signed the paperwork for our new joint financial strucure due to mature 1-2 years time.
Separation still completely on the cards. I had told H that I would be seeking independant advice as to my rights at this stage. He thinks I will be doing this in a couple of weeks. The lawyer I met yesterday indicated to me that I would be in a much better position that I had anticipated, to the extent that H would have trouble probably running a household for the next two years. I am glad to have a couple of weeks to process this, as there are quite a few issues to consider such as making sure the bank with be ok for me to hold a mortgage. Its better for me not to work right now. Contracts and I are old friends so I just need to think it all through.
I gave myself 24 hours to feel sorry for myself and feel better emotionally now and ready to keep moving down my plan B.
I have not worked through how to change my strategy with H at this stage, I need to still my mind a bit more, but I will be very dark and mysterious and all the DB principles.
