OK I have talked to my lawyer. It helped me put things into better perspective, also.

1. I do not want to have the suit dismissed. I do not think we have a chance as long as OW works for my H, and I want to protect myself and my daughter.

2. We can easily take the suit off the dismissal dock and that will give me 2 or 3 months to decide and to see what his improvements are.

I just feel I cannot dismiss the suit while she is there. For all I know they could be even still having an A behind my back.

The question now is: do I tell my H or do I let him think things are at a standstill?

"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little" Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"