Tampering with property that does not belong to you (cell phone) would not hold up in court as evidence, at least not in my state.
All she needs to do is tell him... look buster, you and OW WONT be communicating via e-mail, text or cell under our roof or anywhere on our property, around me or the children every again. If this is not suitable for you lets find you some boxes and get you packed up as I choose to no longer live with a man who has no respect for me. Thanks and have a stellar day.
There *is* a reason my H has not been allowed to set foot back in our (now mine) house since April of 2008. He chose, his choice but that choice did come w/consequences. The poor dear crashed with friends for months and when they grew tired of him he went to live with his grandparents. Me, I have my lovely and comfy brownstown all to myself in a very cool neighborhood. No problem for me
I know you are scared to do this. It took me a LONG time to set boundaries with my H. But the day he came over here four hours late to hang out and watched the clock and promptly left to go meet OW was the last time he was ever here. When he needs something it is stacked in the hall or outside or sent via the mail or through our attnys.
A few weeks ago I was walking my dog and my H just showed up with chocolates, gift cards to my favortie market and a pizza. He wanted to come in and eat the pizza and talk. No. My mind has not changed from nearly 2 years ago. Go eat your pizza and talk with your GF, your WIFE is busy.
