Step off the emotional rollercoaster then and step up to her w/ more authority & get her to really look at things. Right now, you are placating her. You are "allowing" her to do whatever she wants to do. You aren't standing up to her.

Re-read all the material about what YOU ARE ALLOWING her to do while still living in the marital home.

Stand up for yourself & make her respect you again!!

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10