Jayce's thread

[Jayce]

Hello again. Got new full-timer at work, yay! Spent last couple months catching up on yard stuff, trail riding, bought a new saddle that fits better. Should stop some of the riding problems. Still ML about once a week, still total silence, eyes closed. BUT....we've had 4 or 5 counseling sessions! AND he likes the guy! Altho H mostly clams up, volunteers little, he has popped off with a few comments here and there. At least one was the P-A mean kind. Therapist tries to get him to talk about his childhood family life and has gotten him to admit his coping behavior isn't necessary any more since he's no longer at risk of his mother's wrath & manipulation. Ya think?

No luck getting him to talk about early sex experiences, sex education or lack of it, feelings about sex or sensuality. He did say my wanting verbal intimacy, more closeness during the day, (rather than 'let's go to bed' at 10:15 p.m. which could mean ML or that he's tired)isn't that important, such a big deal.(unnecessary?) I said that sounds as if to him it's trivial, like my needing new shoes cuz I can't wear brown shoes w/navy slacks. Therapist sort of got him to agree to try to make intimate comments when we ML. Didn't happen yet. He's visiting relatives this week, home late Sun. nite (too tired to ML for sure) Wonder what'll happen next time. If any progress or change happens it'll be a l-o-o-o-n-g time coming. I wonder if therapist will ever have him come in alone. Meanwhile, I hope you are all well & hangin' tough.
Jayce