Can I save my marriage?

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Thank you everybody. I appreciate everything you say. I kind of did something good today...my H "dropped" by again this morning, with no phone call ahead, I was in the middle of painting the basement and he says, oh sorry guess I should have called first. I said, "Yes, you should have. I would appreciate it if you would start calling before you come over" He apologized and took the kids and left. He was having a grumpy morning and felt he needed family time...that's it. His best friend who is single is busy today and so H is feeling lonely and has nobody. So he thought he could stroll in here and hang out with me to make him feel better. Well for the first time ever, I put a stop to it. He also asked if he could drop off our youngest earlier tonight so he could take the eldest to a hockey game, but I told him I have plans, so he'll have to take both. Ha! I just have to make plans now...I feel like I made leaps and bounds today. As when he was leaving he seemed very down. I wanted nothing more but to give him a big hug and kiss, but I smiled, wished him and the boys a good day and said goodbye.

I am working on myself today. Lunch with his sis, spa party this afternoon, possibly a movie tonight. Its a me day. No more focusing on him. I'm going to focus on myself. Its his loss, not mine. Thanks again everybody for being there for me, I feel like you are there for me more than some of my close friends, and you don't even know me. These are the hardest times of our lives and I appreciate everybody trying to help me through it.