My "ex??"-friend had issues with abuse in both her marriages so I really think she now very gun shy of relationships. We had spent many nites talking about the issues, but she said/seemed ready. Guess once we started getting "serious" (hard to say that as we had only been together 3 weeks and we broke up for 1 week during that time) it pushed her over the edge. But that's mind reading on my part and we've all learned that we can't/shouldn't do that... right? :-)
Ironically, when we broke up the first time, I used a DB principle of "acting as if..." we were still good (we still texted/emailed hot and heavy after we broke up the first time). Then when we saw each other, it was all good.
Then we broke up for "good" the second time where she said she wants to be free and single and wants us to go back to being friends. I went dark (no text/email at all) for about a week. That's when I got the email from her Sat about midnite. Since then, we've had some really light texting sessions (she's a big texter, we very rarely talk on the phone, guess that seems to be the trend now a days with people). I always ended it first and would ask her open ended questions that could not be answered with yes/no when I would respond.
So we'll see how it goes from there.
So has anyone tried transfering DB/DR principles into the dating world? Curious if it could work.....
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
