It would be hard to refuse her requests for a hug/kiss.
I didn't say it would be easy.
Originally Posted By: CountingCrows
Really seems counter-intuitive to me...but I'm trying to wrap my head around these reverse-psychology type methods.
It's not reverse-psychology. It is a boundary. Do you feel your marriage is safe as long as she has a relationship with him? Don't you deserve to feel secure in your marriage? Respect yourself and tell her that I will not share my marriage with another man. It is not about hurting her, it is about respecting yourself. She may take it that way and get angry, but when she reflects on it she will respect your decission to respect yourself.
Read Coach's thread on boundaries. Also read what Puppy (Puppy Dog Tails), Robx, and Coach wrote me and others battling affairs. They have great advice.
