Thanks Dusk! It went pretty well, as good as possible I guess meaning from my frame of mind. Somehow I pysched myself up for it. I read some good posts, like Rocked World that really pumped me for it! I tried to look my best - decided Sat. morning to wear red (a "power" color I hear )& I knew what I wanted to talk about. Knowing I have the L hired is a pretty big relief. I let H know I don't want to keep staying in the house, that I would like the dogs, and that we need to separate finances ASAP. And I would be going off the cell phone "family" plan.
He hesitantly made the suggestion that I move in w my sister & brother (they inherited our Mom's house after she died). Well that has been a thought for me but far from decided.
So I was irritated to read this email today: "Do you have any kind of time frame as to when you might move to sister's? I don't mean that as any kind of pressure but I think Virginia wants to put that in the separation agreement. Again, it's something we can change in the agreement but we should get something in writing." Sorry but I don't care what his L wants to put in the S agrmt. I am sending this to my L & see what she thinks.
What a strange new reality this is. Thanks for the advice, Dusk. You are right of course. I decided the mtg. needed to stay on "business" stuff no R/M talk. So glad to have you & this board to keep me on track. Hope I can help do the same for you. I am really trying to focus on my life, and make the best decisions for me, not based on anyones' timeline, and I dont' want any one who doesn't want me.
)& I knew what I wanted to talk about. Knowing I have the L hired is a pretty big relief. I let H know I don't want to keep staying in the house, that I would like the dogs, and that we need to separate finances ASAP. And I would be going off the cell phone "family" plan. 
Hope I can help do the same for you. I am really trying to focus on my life, and make the best decisions for me, not based on anyones' timeline, and I dont' want any one who doesn't want me.
