Sad to say I'm tired. Tired of being yelled at no matter what I do. Tired of living with a human volcanoe. Tired of being open and vulnerable and being rejected. Sad and tired.
You're preaching to the choir here.
Having said that though, you need to work esp at the sad.
It's hard esp with them at home to keep their moods from impacting yours, but it is so critical.
Ok, so he's complained about communication. As things happen, keep him in the loop. If he says he doesn't want to know etc, just simply say "I don't know what you need from me with regards to communication". Then give him a couple of specifics where he got upset when you didn't.
His anger/upset is his, but it's ok to address any blame he puts on you and ask for clarification. If he doesn't know, i would say I'll keep you in the loop and you can filter out what you don't want.
Now here's the rub...you have to do this without getting upset. If you can pretend this is a business associate, maybe that would help. I has me. I also, pretned my H is a good friend that's just really into my kids. That way I can keep my emotions in check and deal with whatever it brings up in private.
Truth is I don't have the answers. I just keep working it like everybody else.
