No work or school today. S9 comes into my room this morning for a hug and lays on the bed with me for a little while as I am flipping through channels. (Both my boys love to cuddle and I am happy to oblige!!!) We were chatting and I told him that I promise I will do everything I can to to make him and his brother happy. Then he tells me that H told them in the car this week that he is still in the house because of the two of them and that as long as they are alive and live with me, he will too.
While it's good that H wants to be there for the boys and I never had a doubt about that, isn't this continuing to cross the boundary that I thought I had set a couple of months ago that we live our boys out of our R talks. To me, this is H saying "I no longer want to be with your mom, but I'll stick around for you."
Maybe I am being too sensitive. I just want to navigate this sitch with my boys as best as possible. If he is telling them he doesn't want to be with me, is it wrong for me to stay in this sitch and teach them that it is ok to be married and not have a healthy relationship? My parents have been married for 40 years, his divorced when he was 5. I don't want to teach dysfuntion.
BIM M 39 / H 40 / S 9 / S 6 / T 20 / M 11
my sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1828127#Post1828127
