I did find someone that will show me where OW lives when I am ready to tell her husband. I am inching closer to that point.
Don't you think he has a right to know? Why should he be the only one of the 4 of you who DOESN'T get to make decisions based on what's best for him and his family?
I'm so sorry about your little guy. My older brother had to have a hernia at about that same age; it did go fine, tho. Prayers!!