Thank you guys. No I don't think it is respectful for him to talk about any of that. I do not think about him all day trust me these last 2 weeks have been about me and now that has happened I can see my life without him in and I am just fine. It is just things like this that tick me off. And I don't know how to respond that is why I got on here so you guys could help me out and you have great advice which I will follow for sure. How do I know if it is working???
You will know when he comes to you and says he wants back in. Not before.
His thoughts and emotions will be bouncing all over the place while he tries to work out what he wants, what he sees you doing -- trust me, he will notice even if he doesn't say anything -- and what that means for your R.
This is another reason why we say that these changes and improvements must be for you. There is no guarantee that anything you say or do will bring your husband back to you. This is true regardless of if you are DB'ing on not.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
