In shock...

[praying_in_GA]

Ok, my 180s -
- Cut down on the contact. Only text or call when necessary. When we do communicate be friendly, happy, upbeat, have a smile in my voice.
- No R, M, or D words allowed in my vocabulary right now.
- Do not cry in front of him or allow him to know I have been crying.
- No "I love you" or "I miss you"
- Do not linger on the phone, be the one to have to go

Some questions:
-He wants to have a friendship again. Our relationship started off as friends in college. We hung out between classes, had lunch together, talked in class. He said he wants to get back to that time when we were happy to see each other and had a good time talking. How do I work that while applying the DB principles?
- At this point he has moved out and taken off his wedding rings. Is this the time when I am supposed to move the LR situation? I read on another thread that many people just jump there automatically but in my situation there is so little contact between us already. I don't know what to do.

So, this is where I have started. One of my early goals is him wanting to spend some time with us...not me, us. Right now he only spends time with the kids alone. He is very reluctant to do things that involve me.

Things we have discussed about the future are always as a separated couple. We have to move before my oldest starts school which will be Aug 2011. The school system we are in is not good. I have chosen an elementary school that is great and have started looking at the houses in that area. The house the kids and I living in is in his name only. He said he is going to list the house this spring after he opens the pool. I cannot prepare for the move until this one is sold. He is paying the bills here as if he lived her so we can continue to stay in the house. I could not afford it any other way. Should I look at the move as a single mother?