As for today... We will see where it goes. H initaiated a family game night last night. Even invited S18 to drive out and join us. This is all good, except that I am now starting to get the pressure of who are you going to tell etc. I am going to need strength from you folks here because I can tell he is going to try to convince me why to keep as quiet as possible.
This is ABSOLUTELY "script" -- once they are exposed (or self-confess), a wayward spouse will usually butter you up to get you to either DO something or NOT do something.
Stand your ground.
"I haven't made any decisions yet," or "I'm in no rush to make any decisions," or "My position hasn't changed" are all good replies.
My wife was SWEET AS SYRUP when she found out I was going to go for full custody of our sons. After a couple of weeks of statements like the above, she went right back to being full of bile when it started to appear that she wasn't going to get her way.
