Hi, I just want you to know that I'm following your thread and hoping the best things for you. I've been reading along and can't offer up the expertise some of the others have, but you are getting some great help.
I will say that on the EA front, Puppy basically could have been sitting in the room with my W and I whe we talked about the A because that is what happened. Old friend, sympathetic with his own issues, bouncing feelings off each other, turned into an EA and led to a drunken hook up when W had convinced herself our M was over and we were not together anymore. I think you read my thread so I'll leave it at that, but just tread lightly. Not meant to scare you, meant to prepare you.
I was not a good husband and am working to change that. BUT, you can't take it all on your shoulders. Listen to Puppy.
Read the entire book. Then read it again. I forget if you are reading DR or DB. I had DR and think Ch. 7 was taking stock or something like that. You need to figure out what does and does not work.
Also, and last point, don't believe everything your WAH says. Believe nothing you hear and only half of what you see is the saying I think that gets thrown around here. My W said alot of things and contradicted herself all the time. Just listen, validate, and understand that they are in a fog too. Don't call him out on any contradictions because it will only make him mad right now.
Me: 30 W: 29 D: 20 months M: 5 years T: 6.5 years ILYBNILWY and want to separate: 10/5/2009
