My W and I went to a MC shortly after the separation.
Counselor: “W, how do you feel about the marriage?”
W: “I’m done”
Counselor: “Well, Norm, W seems to be done. I think we should move on to the next step.”
Whaaaaat???? It was a freakin’ disaster!!
That's actually very good advice. You have to detach enough to see it. I had the same thing happen to me and my initial reaction was the same. I went back to the same counselor alone and saw the wisdom in it later. The MC isn't going to change someones mind. The LBS has to get to the same point of detachment - "I'm done." Now your dead and can function like you need to.
So, is there no point in MC if the WAS says I'm done? Says my feelings won't ever change?
Would one point of MC be simply getting the WAS to think, not change their mind, but think about their feelings, what the future looks like, and whether the issues in the M are fatal or not?
