I have been blaming her Kinesiologist for her wanting to leave me, but I see know that this was wrong, I know my W and I know she has made these decisions on her own and that He only gave her the tools to face what she has been feeling for along time, but was to scared to face up. I apologized to her this morning and told her that I was looking for a scape goat as I did not want to accept that it was my actions that has led us to this point. She said she was sorry that I only realized this when it was to late.
I hope that you are correct about this. As you have noted, you have not been an exemplary husband. However, there are 'guru's who will use the 'spiritual' route to manipulate people using techiniques of coercive persuasion. See for example this situation:
