Im gonna stay the course and not contact her and see what happens. We've been married just shy of 20 years and have had 4 years of issues including a short affair by me 4 yrs ago and at the very least an EA by her for the last 6 mos.
Read the success stories. The only way to save the M is to let go of it and see if they miss you. It's way easier said than done. I've been separated six months but spent the first four trying little ways to convince her it was a mistake. The past two I've let go -- at least in my dealings with her, to my friends I'm still a mess -- in hopes that she'll find the grass isn't greener and then look back to me.
So if you are doing as well as you sound in this post, you're off to a great start.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
