A bit of advice is wanted -- well, if not advice (as Poor Richard said, the worst vice is ad-vice), then some thoughts to chew on.
S10 mentioned yesterday that while he and D6 were at Mom's house, he woke up early one morning, and she was crying by herself in her living room. When he asked her why, she said, "I ruined your lives," and continued to bemoan the Fates.
Now quite apart from the divorce piece of this, and I suspect I know what @Gypsy's response would be, what might / ought I do about this?
Whether she feels that way or not is irrelevant -- just as the DB'er is expected to (Wo)Man Up and Maintain in front of the children, the D'er should as well. I don't really want the kids getting dragged into the Adult World any more than they have to be, and when the focus is on Parent Wallowing the children might get mixed messages about their own sadness taking a back seat.
Yes, I "get" that it is good for children to understand one is sad. But there's a world of difference between sincerely explaining to a child -- a small child especially -- that it is hard for everyone, even you, and allowing yourself to be seen wallowing.
