Hey S, you know how I feel regarding your xh. He is way beyond putting the cuckoo back in the clock.
You also know that I understand that you need to have contact with him because you have young children. You need to feel they are as safe as they can be with him and you need to be able to have contact.
Here's where I get a little uncomfortable. I feel like he is calling the shots, he gets to have things the way he wants to and manipulates you. When that happens, everyone loses, ya know?
So, somewhere there needs to be boundaries set and adhered to because if you dont, this crazy freakin game you two play will go on for a looonnnggg time. After awhile, its gonna get really played out and tired.
Do what you can to limit contact with him. This texting and calling you all the time is not right, its not good for you.
The offer always stands, if you need me to talk to him, Brooklyn style, you just let me know. It will be VERY clear to him what he needs to do, that he needs to back way the hell up and that he needs to be looking over his shoulder for a little woman with a Brooklyn accent and no fear - LOL!.
