Here's the update on tonight's drama, or lack thereof.
I left from home at 8pm, called D17 on her cell. Called S13 on the home phone. I was surprised that wife picked up; she's been using caller ID, and having my son pick up. She just said hello, and I simply said "I'm calling for S13". I likely should at least given her a greeting, but I wasn't unusually tense.
What's the best way to handle this? Why is she now answering the phone?
First (red) part -- GOOD, IMPORTANT QUESTION. This is where you need to be focusing.
Second (green) part -- NOT important. Who cares? Don't mindread -- big DB no-no.
OK, how you should have handled it was with a pleasant, upbeat (but not annoyingly so) "Hi! How's it going (no pause), is S13 there? I promised I'd call him."
You don't want to look like you're AVOIDING her, as it makes you look some combination of weak and afraid.
