FOO issues and childhood traumas shape us as people and point us on the path that we are on. In dealing with that you can redirect your path. You view it as history, a done deal. The emotion from the immediate pain and fear of it - yes. The subconscious trauma suffered from it - no.
However, that being said, you need a C who will focus on the here and now first. The past history can be dealt with when you are in a healthier state of mind.
Example - I have a lot of past issues that have caused my self-esteem problems. I touched on it briefly with my C to give her background but we are not working through those things right now, we are working on my view of myself in the now. I see how the past shaped me, but dealing with the now keeps me from diving into that black hole in the past where I could become stuck.
Make sense?
Oh yeah, I know 'happy pills' aren't for everyone. What about something herbal though? St. John's Wort or something Ali told us about called 5HTP (they have it at GNC and I'm sure other places).
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
