Going straight forward...antlers 5th thread.

[iwantittowork]

Antler's hope today finds you feeling better, some good posts above by CIPA, and everyone.

I wanted to go back to one of your comments:

It's hard to choke down the abject rejection that I feel from someone who once cared about me

I have been doing a lot of research and work in this area, and found some interesting insights, from a psychological viewpoint.

I am having a hard time writing my thoughts on this, but there is some codependency in your sitch that I see in regards to your W, I found it in my own as well, and in myself.

I found some excellent explanations from a psychological viewpoint of ourselves and our relationships from a Dr. Paul, who talks about Dating, but it's really about our own emotional well being.

He discusses how holes in our boundaries let these things in, and cause us to suffer, or become co-dependent, and many other things. Very insightful to look at ourselves like this.

An appropriate quote of his:

Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot.