As I have been told many times. If what you are doing is not working. try a different approach. Divorce busting goes against what we would naturally think is the way to handle things. That is why it works.
Remember, the boundaries are for you, not for her. They are to help you along in this process and keep you emotionally sane.
I am starting to set some boundaries now and it is having quite an interesting affect on my W I think. She isn't used to it.
It can't hurt you. It might help you. I have seen it help many others.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...