I am not trying to hurt him, but before he came back last time, he said one reason he came back is because when I said L, H thought that his life was going to change and he was comfortable with the way things were. I don't want him to get "comfortable" again. I was doing this to make sure he understood I still have my boundaries without being mean. I am not going to spend the holidays with him when he is still gone.
Excellent point. It's a good thing he let you know that, so you don't let him get 'comfortable' again. I think for better or for worse, the holidays really are a awake up call. Holidays are meant for families, and when you don't have a family to share it with, that pretty much stinks. Hmm, I might have to try to have the whole holiday scheduling talk myself. =P (which is necessary but also useful!)
Things really do seem like they are progressing well. He is obviously taking the time to do things that he knows will be meaningful to you (note, cd, helping out), along with decreasing both his initiated contact with OW and calling the other home "home". All successes and baby steps in the right direction! I to will pray that they continue. So happy for good days! It gives hope to us all. =)
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
