Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[MrBond]

Well this is interesting!

Last night I got a call from my female friend whom I've gone out with about 3 times. Well she told me that she started developing feelings for me and wanted to be honest about it.

I told her that I valued her friendship and also liked her, but wasn't sure if I liked liked her.

She knows my sitch through and through and I told her flat out that if my W were to "snap out of it" that I would want my M to work as that was my first priority. She said she totally understood and wanted to just be honest with me. I told her I wanted to be honest and that I'm not a player who wanted to get in her pants, but I really valued her friendship and have fun when we're together. Hell I think after living in hell for almost 2 years, anything is an improvement.

I also told her that if it did evolve into a R, that she would have alot more to take on than I do. I'm counting my kids in all this and if she really thought it through. She said she had.

So I told her I didn't want her to feel cheated or used and that I would be honest with her in terms of how I felt and about my sitch. And so we agreed to just take it slow as friends and see what happens.

Funny thing is that I've funneled so much of my emotions into my WAW that I don't feel intense feelings for anything. I don't intend to do anything that would go beyond hanging out for now. My intentions are just not at that point yet. But I have to say that this friend of mine is a good catch without the issues that my W hasn't been able to confront. Of course she's probably got a list of new baggage to deal with.

It's weird how all this R...DBing stuff has made us seem so put together that other members of the opposite sex get attracted to us. Too bad it doesn't work that easily with our WAS.

It's also odd how certain people tend to come into our sitches at key times where we are in moments of transition. Interesting what happens when you let everything go and leave it up to God.