At least I've learned to keep a good tone and just listen on the phone and not jump in and force a relationship talk. It's been six weeks since I did that.
The next step is consistently being able to handle seeing her.
I too have learned to keep up the detachment type front when I speak with H over the phone. However, I am not 100% there either when seeing him in person. I haven't yet mastered this in face to face conversations. I am getting better at it, but still have a ways to go.
Me & H: 33 yrs S: 4 & 6 D: 2 M: 9 yrs ILYBNILWY: 8/09 SEPARATED: 9/09 The Beginning