Originally Posted By: frank_D
Originally Posted By: KerryK
Frank, are you and STBXW on a united front in doing what is best for D14?


Yes, except I don't yell at her. I don't know what the problem is except, as D18 says, she has to live with her mother when her mother is being neurotic.


Frank, this is one of those situations where you and the stbx must work together because it is about the child. Sit your daughter down in a room with you and the stbx and make her speak before both of you. That way there is no confusion, no manipulation, no lies.

Let your D14 be involved in the how are we going to fix 3 F's decision. Let her be in front of both of you when the question is asked about where she wants to live and what works best for her.

I will say one more thing, the 3 F's are not because your stbx is neurotic, they are more likely because neither parent is actively participating in follow through on her schoolwork. You because you are not there, and stbx because she is well....you know.


Ian


M- 48
XW- mentally 17
KIDS- 3- S19, D23, D28
Married- 17 years
Divorce final- 10/16/09