Pretty funny...in a more ha ha f me sort of way, that whole I'm done, I'm not done cycle. You'll know for sure when you don't actually cycle that you are there in one repsect or the other. That's why I usually don't put much faith in those statements at first.
I read somewhere of a study that says 'we' change out our friends just about every 7 years..but our social circle still rmeains about the same size...its like staff turnover in an office.
A good sign of ...positive...changes in her is when these parasites...ahem...I mean friends of hers start dropping off of her social calendar. Not saying she will instantly wake up or anything like that, it just shows that she is re-evaluting her life.
The cool thing about rebuildning, if you get there, you get to adress the issues you have with her as well. Its not just a one way street where you are grateful for her coming back, you get to throw down some guidelines too.
"Look this whole the bathroom isn't good enough bull crap? Tell me how to fix it, or do it yourself, but stop complaining about it." : )
I recommend not doing that one for a little bit though.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
