Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Although I think the EA in my sitch is over, I do know that she is still in occasional contact with him (he responds to things she posts online, etc.) I don't see any evidence that the A is ongoing, but I think it still impacts her thinking in just the way you describe - if "just happened" then something that requires a choice and work is unnatural.

She claims to have been trying to make the r work, but explicitely rejects making a choice or doing any sort of exercize aimed at increasing emotions.

I need to avoid thinking about this stuff however, as it goes in the direction of blame, and when I start blaming her I get resentful. Resent only gets me to bad places.

I know she is not doing any of this to hurt me. She is doing what she is capable of and is on her own journey. Right now I need to focus on my own.

I am hoping that having space from her sleeping in a different room will help me with that.