"In the begining I didnt see how reluctant he was going ahead with committing to a loan for the cabin. Very soon I resented him for not being a part of the process." Best not to assume why he was reluctant. It may have been from financial or job insecurities; I've been there and done that so I know and so has Lan and a few others. And Kerry I've been doing OK the but extremely busy as a single dad and my home renovation which is now starting to look like a work of art.
