Over the Shock and GALing 6

[tryingtilDorR]

Thinker - I was struck by the following:

In response to "What do you want?" she responded "I want to be married to someone who makes me happy."

I get this same comment as well - they think it is someone else's job to make them happy. If she listed at Retrouvaille she would have heard that love is a choice, and therefore happiness from your M is implicitly a choice too if you have a partner who is also giving to the relationship. My W's response to this was "I don't want to have to CHOOSE anything" In other words, it should just happen without any work. Also, when they are in an A it may seem ridiculous to have to make this choice when they are so 'happy' with OM I figure.

I like your list of positives about having your bed/room to yourself. My W moved out of our bedroom almost 6 months ago and all these things are definitely true and I try to focus on them. I have become a watch-tv-in-bed person, and I never used to do that because W used to go to bed early.