In shock...

[TrentC]

I think she is trying to get me to the point of accepting that it is over. She has always been a single mother and there has always been some jealousy between us. I have always been jealous of her independent nature and she of my married life. I think she sees a divorce as a way to even the field for us almost. She had her kids in her teenage years while I waited to get married.

I've heard that in a lot of cases of divorce, there is someone outside the R who is advocating or pushing the R towards a divorce; that someone often turns out to be a friend or family member who is divorced (or worse, an OP).

If I were you, I would brace myself for the possibility of discovering an EA or PA between your sister and your husband. This could just be a case of sibling rivalry, but PuppyDogTails has a good affair detector and would be able to say for sure...

I think I will steal some of your words...thanks.

That's what they're there for.

I already told her that if she is going to go back to H with what I say and feel then I can't talk to her anymore. She said she is sorry I feel that way, but she maintains she is not being a 'snitch' (for lack of a better word).

Like I said, it's a perfectly reasonable boundary. When she is ready to keep your confidence, you'll open up to her again. It's her choice how to handle it. (I wouldn't hold my breath...)

From here on out I am sticking to my new internet support system, my counselor at the church, and the few people in my life that are continuing to pray intensely for my R. I need that extra bump with God. I will not go in-depth with anyone but you all and the counselor.

Good plan.