What is he like now? Do you think he would want to build the cabin now? When he speaks do you feel that he feels there is a future together?
Sometimes I think it is feelings like that which are more important than the OP or the job sitch. What is your gut telling you?
You can deal with grieving about OW and building trust again as you proceed down the line of rebuilding your M, if that is what you want to do.....but what are your insides saying about his commitment and the likely hood that you have set to bed the reasons that made him wander to the OW in the first place?
Also, talking about OW can come later. To me, it's about what YOU think and FEEL at the moment.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
