I've been really focussing on my own life, on myself. Working on taking care of my own feelings and pulling back from H. I 'm seeing positive results. The calmer I am and the less I react with fear and anger to my H, the more calm and positive he has been as well.
Sunday morning i emailed him decided to put positive appreciation into the plan. I thanked him for being fair on our marital separation agreement, and for talking and comprimising about the weekend care schedule for our S. (H has been just showing up without making plans).
He responded by saying he noticed how reasonable I've been and even more so than he has been at times.This was a big step. Usually he is frustrated at "my freaking out" (even though as you may know from my thread H has anger problems). I demonstrated my calm and he noticed and responded well. Recently he has stopped insistence that I am out of the house when he is here.
