Yes, I am definitely co-dependent. Thanks Trent for pointing that out again. I didn't realize when I wrote that sentence how I was being. You're right I'm am a H pleaser. Its getting me nowhere. I need to fight my fears and just do it. If there is one thing I'm going to do this week it is going to be setting a boundary. I owe it to myself. I've done it before I can do it again. He did walk out on me, I just try to do the DB'ing part where you act as if...act like i'm living my life and everything is fine, and I don't need him. So when I set a boundary I just need to go about it in a nice way..true?
Just go about it matter of factly. Did he go about leaving you in a nice way?
Originally Posted By: britt54
Sadgirl, I get the point of H being a want not a need. How did you get to that point? I know in my heart that H is a want, but I still feel like he is a need...Hmmm...
Because I love myself more than I love him. I would like to be with him, but if not, that's fine. Someone even better is out there for me. Plus, the more you need something, the less likely you'll get it. I need a million dollars, but so far....nada.
Originally Posted By: britt54
Sadgirl, you're right, I should be angry with him. I'm just a worrywart. I get that from my father. He is the BIGGEST worrywart ever. My sister is so frustrated with how I can't seem to have an ounce of anger in my body toward him but I love the man and support him and hope he is just making a small stupid mistake. I don't want to get angry I just want to be here if he decided to come home to us.
IMO, it's not a matter of him deciding to come home so much as you deciding to let him.
