Get the keylogger. Can you check her phone while she is in the shower? She was texting alot and I busted an IM convo online. If there is an EA or PA, it's a game changer. Once I uncovered it and confronted her, it changed everything (I realize it will be different for everyone). In my case it was a cry for help more than anything I think. At a minimum snatch it for a minute when you can and rifle through the texts. Puppy has a good nose.
You've got a good crew with more experience and knowledge than me giving you advice. It sounds like your doing better than I was.
If you know she wants to talk, see what she has to say. Shut it down if it isn't relevant. Avoid getting baited into anything because she could be looking for a reason to find more fault with you to justify herself. That is what was happening to me for awhile....use Coach's line to open the door for you.
Your 180s are probably still working. She has just adjusted her game face so you see nothing. Remember to not be too cold, just happy and warm, but not needy and end interactions first leaving her wanting more. This was a balance that was tough for me because I was such a wreck for a month. If you can't act that way then avoid if possible until you can....I think you get my point. It had been said a million times here much more eloquently.
I read some books like DR in the other room and she knew. I mentioned it once when she looked interested but didn't get too into it and didn't really bring it up again. If she sees the title than it might turn her off...it's passive aggressive. I left it as, I'm reading things that I think will help make me a better person and implement positive lasting changes...nuff said.
I know the sleeping in the same bed bit. I did almost a month in different beds. When I busted the A, I moved back into my room...she stayed. My wife is hot and would rub it in my face and walk all over naked...trust me I know the feeling.
Me: 30 W: 29 D: 20 months M: 5 years T: 6.5 years ILYBNILWY and want to separate: 10/5/2009
