At a loss about my sitch - Need advice and support

[sportsfan]

Thanks again Lola. Here is what makes me afraid. If I go dim and have very little contact with H, then he might miss OW#2 even more because he will have no one. But if I try to be supportive and feed his emotional needs, then H might find me to be a doormat and his fall-back person. I don't want to pressure him. I want him to realize that it has always been me. He told me that when I first found out. He said no matter what, she wasn't me. I'm so conflicted about what to do.